"I have not been to me" | i haven't been to me
Ihaventreallyheardthephrase"Ihavenotbeentome".Howeverpeopledosay"Ihavenotbeentomyself(lately)"or"Ijusthaventbeenme(lately)".Mostoftenthemeaningisthatemotionallytheyhaventbeenfeelingthebestsotheirbehavioralpatternisdifferentthanwhatistypical.Itsoftensaidasanapologytofriends.Forexample,iftheygotolunchandthatpersonhasbeenupsetaboutbreakingupwithherboyfriendsoshedoesnotparticipateinconversationswithherfriends,shemayapologizetoherfriendsbysaying,"Imsosorry.Ijustbrokeupwithmybf2weeksagoandIhavebee...
I havent really heard the phrase "I have not been to me". However people do say "I have not been to myself (lately)" or "I just havent been me (lately)". Most often the meaning is that emotionally they havent been feeling the best so their behavioral pattern is different than what is typical. Its often said as an apology to friends. For example, if they go to lunch and that person has been upset about breaking up with her boyfriend so she does not participate in conversations with her friends, she may apologize to her friends by saying, "Im so sorry. I just broke up with my bf 2 weeks ago and I have been so sad. I just havent been myself lately."